Dr Robert Glover is a therapist, coach and an author.
We’re frequently told to be less selfish in life, whether it’s in love, work, or personal matters. But what if prioritising your own needs is actually the key to unlocking a better life?
Expect to learn how you can make your needs a priority, ways you can learn to be authentic, how men can learn to have more self compassion, what men often don’t understand about female attraction, the problem with needing approval from anyone outside of yourself, Robert’s advice for staying out of the friendzone, best tips to date after a divorce and much more…
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00:00 Believe Your Needs Are Important
08:40 How to Make Your Needs a Priority
18:22 Rewriting Deeply-Set Patterns
26:05 Preventing a Critical Inner Voice
35:43 Believing the Story You Tell Yourself
45:13 Men Need to Step Outside of the Cycle
55:25 Having a Puritan View of Hard Work
1:03:10 The Cause of Nice Guy Syndrome
1:09:07 What it Really Means to Be an Alpha
1:21:29 Do Women Need to Be More Receptive?
1:36:41 How to Successfully Use Online Dating
1:47:55 Dating After Breaking Up or Divorcing
1:54:40 The Downsides of a Casual Sex Culture
1:58:17 Where to Find Dr Glover
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Hello you savages. Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify – https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts – https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Here's the timestamps:
00:00 Believe Your Needs Are Important
08:40 How to Make Your Needs a Priority
18:22 Rewriting Deeply-Set Patterns
26:05 Preventing a Critical Inner Voice
35:43 Believing the Story You Tell Yourself
45:13 Men Need to Step Outside of the Cycle
55:25 Having a Puritan View of Hard Work
1:03:10 The Cause of Nice Guy Syndrome
1:09:07 What it Really Means to Be an Alpha
1:21:29 Do Women Need to Be More Receptive?
1:36:41 How to Successfully Use Online Dating
1:47:55 Dating After Breaking Up or Divorcing
1:54:40 The Downsides of a Casual Sex Culture
1:58:17 Where to Find Dr Glover
As a man I've always attracted more women minding my own business. I don't even approach women anymore. Advice I have for younger guys. Don't watch porn or look at hot women on twitch/youtube. Life changing advice
Nah….it's hard to imagine the dude working on his 4th marriage has much to say on the subject of successful relationships. You can't lead others to where you've never been.
"Women, treat men like particularly slow, mentally disabled golden retrievers" damn…
Nothing like taking relationship advice from a man that’s been married 3x 🙄
I am almost through this one on Spotify but there was a part in it that made me curious about something.
I think it is in the 55:25 chapter about hard work.
You said that you didn't feel deserving of success unless you suffered for it.
Then I wondered… Do you feel Worthy of Love, Loyalty & Commitment unless you Suffered for it as well?
Do you believe you have to Earn Love? Rather than just accept that who you are is enough?
I believe some of the most valuable attributes of a Man is just in the way he thinks, feels & sees the world.
That's how I evaluate Men.
I never look at what they have.
I look at how they show up in the world & how he treats others.
I look at WHO he is & how his Heart translates into his words actions in life.
All your interviews are high quality Chris but this one was fire🔥 I read No More Mr Nice Guy over 10 years ago, but hearing Dr. Glover's messaging again and again is necessary. Salute🫡
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this episode was SOO freacking helpful and digestable. thank you Chris for having the Dr. Glover
Great n all but my man basically passport broed his wife..
bro chriss has a sponsor every 10 minutes
Hey Chris, long time listener of the podcast. I just finished listening to this episode on Apple Podcasts, and I thought I’d recommend some guests who I think you’d enjoy discussing ideas with.
List of potential interviewees on the podcast:
Sisyphus 55, FD Signifier, Gerbert Johnson (all YouTubers)
The crocks are fire 🔥❤
Love the backward hat:)
mgtow, enuff said
Chris is back on the dating scene? Watch out for that black pill!
Critical mind is NOT a brain type. Lol. It's the Virgo in your chart. Seriously… Most people have some of this, but not all people.
No more Mr Nice Guy is a great book
This was full of little quotes that would make great possible episode titles. I really enjoyed this one 👌🏽
My guy has been married like a half dozen times and he's here to give relationship advice. Got it. I'll tune in after I get back from my financial advising meeting with a guy who lives in a cardboard box.
One of my favorites ever — awesome chat
Hello Chris: Good luck looking for someone new.
Yes!
This man has changed so many lives and is on point. If you get triggered, it highlights what you need to work on.
Smart work is working on what really matters , on improving yourself everyday , even if just by 1%. Kudos to you 👏.
Love this guest – he comes across as so authentic- a breath of fresh air.
I was a client of Dr. Glover in the late 2000’s. I met my wife a year after working with him.
59:20 yeah poor people do hard work however they have the richest souls and most wholeheartedly living that includes family and community too. Now at 38 I do have patterns I haven’t grown out of when it comes to money however the things I miss the most and I’m consciously creating for myself are the ones of lesser material things and more connections with others, bcuz when I was poor that is what made my life so FULL
I have loved iyanla vanzant's quote for years. "My cup runneth over. What's in the cup is for me, and what runs over I have to give to everyone else."
I really loved the book and all. I also appreciate all the content he’s given for free . On the other end the guy has a PHD ofcourse that will impress women . The guy is in a transactional relationship with a much younger woman which he allowed her to sleep around & he is basically paying for everything. Once he will stop paying for everything he won’t have a wife. Not much different from passport bros mentality. Not really practicing what he preaches. Just took the shortcut. Picking up a woman from the slums when you are a “billioner” in her book is basically renting a girlfriend.
I love how Dc GLover put finally the real deal with hardwork and frame it for what really is not like all pseudos entrpreneurs.
🥰❤🔥💋💋💋
Hey Chris i love your Videos they helped so much during my life, they changed my perspective how i should pursuit life. I would like to thank you for your dedicated work to make people like me my life better. For the next Podcast i would love to hear from Mohnish Pabrai. He is in the greatest Investors during our time, who has a kind interesting perspective about life and investing and he lives in Austin Texas.
In the Deep South, a virgin is a person who can run 🏃 faster 💨 than their relatives.
This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Wise, Insightful!! Good Show 👍
Men’s problems are women’s problems.
If men suffer, ultimately so will women. This is a no win game.
One of my favourite episodes from this show. No More Mr Nice Guy is a really good book from Robert
Chris: "I'm now back to the dating scene, which is scary and the whole new world for me". An athletic looking Brit with 2 million subscribers that has just moved to US is trying to sound humble 😀
So strange, I saved this video to "Watch later", I check the next day and the video is not on the list. I bet if I saved a video titled "how to attract a transgender" there would be even daily reminders to watch the video
Why most men fail to attract a quality woman?
Watching this video makes me feel like a failure for not finding a quality woman. Like it's MY fault mostly, regardless of the factors that are outside of my direct control.
Why can't I just be myself? Isn't that good enough? Or is being myself not good enough to make it happen?
What a fun guest, i enjoyed all his stories and lessons.I could listen for hours. Again, Communication is key for any relationship.
Your insights about women's experiences were spot on. Couldn't have loved this episode more, unless you gave specific examples of modern handkerchief dropping. Spell it out. What do I need to do?