Me (M24) and my wife (F23) have had a rocky relationship the last 6 months. We got married 2 and a half years ago. The marriage counselor was open and honest with me on my mistakes, and although I was a bit hard headed, I eventually understood my issues and I started to make drastic changes.
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0:18 Wife had an online affair when we started going to marriage counseling. Advice Appreciated
https://www.reddit.com/r/AsOneAfterInfidelity/comments/ukpk2j/wife_had_a_online_affair_when_we_started_going_to/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
6:18 Update: Wife had a online affair when we started to marriage counseling
https://www.reddit.com/r/AsOneAfterInfidelity/comments/ul83ny/update_wife_had_a_online_affair_when_we_started/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
11:55 An Update on how I’m doing post separation
https://www.reddit.com/r/AsOneAfterInfidelity/comments/uo9b63/an_update_on_how_im_doing_post_separation/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
20:51 I just don’t get the why
https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/uq123q/i_just_dont_get_the_why/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
21:55 Going to my first in person therapy session post separation plus positive updates
https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/ur2gul/going_to_my_first_in_person_therapy_session_post/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
23:47 First therapy session since separation went extremely well
https://www.reddit.com/r/Infidelity/comments/usk8zx/first_therapy_session_since_seperation_went/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
28:12 Hate how I miss her right now
https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/utoti4/hate_how_i_miss_her_right_now/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
28:44 Struggling with feelings of abandonment but overall getting better
https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/uwx7eq/struggling_with_feelings_of_abandonment_but/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
30:35 Experiencing the worst ducking night right now
https://www.reddit.com/r/Infidelity/comments/uxc247/experiencing_the_worst_ducking_night_right_now/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
31:24 I feel pretty great all things considered
https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/veo3eg/i_feel_pretty_great_all_things_considered/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
32:13 Still struggling with the feeling of abandonment but making progress
https://www.reddit.com/r/Infidelity/comments/uwx80a/still_struggling_with_the_feeling_of_abandonment/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
32:14 Just a small rant to vent my feelings
https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/vrjl1e/just_a_small_rant_to_vent_my_feelings/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
34:13 At a party right now
https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/vu3389/at_a_party_right_now/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
35:05 Need some validation and encouragement I guess
https://www.reddit.com/r/Infidelity/comments/vcnzoe/need_some_validation_and_encouragement_i_guess/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
35:57 Life Update I guess…
https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/w51xmv/life_update_i_guess/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
38:06 A really sweet woman offered me her number at the gym today
https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/w6n2oo/a_really_sweet_woman_offered_me_her_number_at_the/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
39:29 I’m 283 lbs right now starting from 300 lbs
https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/w8s3oq/im_283_lbs_right_now_starting_from_300_lbs/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
42:17 Had another one of those dreams we all hate
https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/wagl5k/had_another_one_of_those_dreams_we_all_hate/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
44:03 Just wanna ramble a little to clear my head
https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/wdasxp/just_wanna_ramble_a_little_to_clear_my_head/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
47:40 To my soon to be ex wife
https://www.reddit.com/r/UnsentLetters/comments/wfhegx/to_my_soon_to_be_ex_wife/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
52:10 Months post D-Day Update
https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/wfs50r/3_months_post_dday_update/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
56:13 Will Of The People means something a little different for me
https://www.reddit.com/r/Muse/comments/x19cj2/will_of_the_people_means_something_a_little/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
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1 hr of op lamenting the wife cheating. What I never understand is why most of these bs won't work on their codependency issues. Throughout all his posts he wanted another woman to make him happy and not finding happiness within himself. As long as he doesn't understand this he will be trapped in the same circle of codependency
It matters zero how WW feels. There is no justice to be had, and WW is not OP's problem any more. The lesson for OP here is to not be so naive about what people are capable of. No exceptions. Now OP needs to get his mother to cut off communication with his WW, like any loyal parent would do.
5'9"/283 and can't compliment his own looks enough. I'm picturing a beachball with cornrows. He needs to focus on other things.
My God. I have zero tolerance for cheaters, but I can understand why the wife turned away from the OP. I understand that the OP went through a traumatic and difficult situation, but his post is just about how he is "beautiful", "in shape", "got a good job", "people praise him", etc, etc… Living with him shouldn't be easy. He needs a therapist to find himself. The OP remains attached to his WW. The personal improvements he is making seem like they are not for him but to show off to his WW. I also see a need for self-affirmation with the many redundant posts. The best action of a betrayed to a traitor is indifference. Good luck to the OP and thanks for the video.
he's living in a fantasy if he thinks she feels shame
I've heard this story on every single infidelity channel on YouTube…this guy is a simp and living in a fantasy world
OP was 5'9", 310 pounds?! No wonder the wife went off the reservation. All bets are off when you're morbidly obese.