Hello! 1 year later was moving to a new city a disaster? Can you make it as a woman alone in a home by yourself? Why didnāt I really remarry? What about cost or repairs? Can you make memories? How lonely do you get? By your familyā¦does that mean all your problems vanish? Letās really talk today!
I had a thoughtful weekā¦my 1 anniversary of closing on my house! It brought up so many emotions!
I hope everybody had a great week!!
Desi does sing here at the end!!!
I hope this video helps those going through a new living arrangement.
Let us all know how you feel about any change you may have had in your living arrangement over the years. Divorce or losing a spouse or partner is a great sorrowā¦it takes time, but we survive and we can thriveā¦but happiness is never freeā¦we women are braveā¦always.
I love you all and hope your journey is a joyous one, no matter the path before you.
Love Always, Susan & Desi
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In one week from Monday, I'll be getting a divorce from a 32 year abusive marriage. I NEVER thought it would happen. So I've been binge watching your videos. How encouraging they have been. Learning how to not be scared to death to move, how to move and have a productive life in spite of being single, is so inspiring. You did the right thing Susan, it was your dream and you accomplished it and how grateful I am you did. Because you are giving us the courage to do the same. Thank you so much and God bless you and Desi!
Prince charming is few and far between, No one is perfect.
Iv been married 48 yrs. Always had a great social life. Good friends. Great husband. When covid started my mom got dementia. Had to make hardest decisions of my life. I never dreamed my last years on this earth would be spent friendless. I'm broken and I don't know how to fix itš¢š¢ā¤
I know I'll sound like a broken record but I am just so thankful for you and your videos. I wish it was a two sided relationship but this is our little "friendship" and I'm just going to be grateful for my Sunday afternoons where I can catch up with you and Desi. You both make me so very happy. Thank you for being here for all of us.
Your move took great courage! AT this time in our lives we do need friendships but a marriage is not the same as this age as it was when we were 20 and starting to build a life. We have already done that. It makes sense you are not wanting to re-establish a role of cook maid nurse etc.. you would like the rest of us if your marriage (s) had lasted and you grew old together. I can testify to you that every single divorced lady I know of and some gents feel exactly the same. We do need each other for friendship! We can do that!
Iām 72, runner for 42 years, vegan for 39, divorced 37 years, moved more than 36 times. Most of my moves have been in my broadcasting career. Then I began running away. After my husband left me I took a job in Seattle moving from Central California. After being pursued by both an ardent fan and lesbian I ran away again taking a job on air in San Francisco. After caring for my mom for almost 20 years then losing her to dementia I moved back to Seattle to heal, terrible move. Then, with 3 dogs in tow I wandered up and down the West Coast for almost 2 years looking for home. Finally, I bought a home in Rocklin, CA and was happy. During the Covid lockdown I felt suffocated, sold my home and with my then 2 new dogs moved to an island in Washington state. Itās beautiful but Iām desperately lonely. Washingtonians despise Californians. I have no family or friends and wake up almost every day in tears. Advice? Face the real issue without running away. Moving after my divorce to Seattle was healing and I thought it would work a second and 3rd time. It hasnāt. Iām lost, ungrounded still praying for direction and trying my best to listen.
After being a widow almost three years I feel exactly the same way. I donāt want the responsibility of any romantic relationships.
One can feel alone if if they are not?! Married all my life to same man. I was 18 he was 20. I feel alone many times. So my friend,enjoy whatever life brings your way. Donāt put anyone before yourself. Be thankful you have loved and learned!!! I do love my husband!! He is a good man and I canāt imagine my life without him ,you see ,I donāt know anyone or anything else. To have lived a life of 69 years that is my age, I have children,grandchildren and thank you Lord for my blessed life. You my friend are so blessed as well. ššš
I was as optimistic as you about my move 3 years ago. New friends! New experiences! New dates! But itās a struggle at our age to deal with the energy it takes to re build lifeā¦..alone.
Sometime I feel the same way you do. I've thought would I really want to share my home with someone else and also my time and put my life second. I just don't think I would want to do that again. At least you have family and date. I do not at this time, so I have a lot of time to heal and resolve things without distractions. Also getting through the grief of my husband passing from a long illness. I finally can focus on taking care of myself. I do feel gratitude for all that I have in my life and fortunate. I am learning to focus on my blessings. Your videos inspire me to enjoy decorating my home and doing things that make me feel happy.
I really enjoyed hearing you reflect on your year and to know that it has turned out so well with your family. Itās nice when a long planned for dream becomes reality – a yard for Desi, a charming town, nature and family close by and your dream house made into a beautiful home for you and Desi.
Even though I don't 'officially' know you, it makes me so happy that you made the right decision. BTW, Desi makes me smile every week because he looks so much like my little grand doggie that is no longer with us.
Iām completely understanding your thoughts. I wouldnāt mind having a male friend but absolutely no marriage or no commitment as well as living together. Like you, I know itās going to be just the same olā same olā.
Thanks Susan for sharing your anniversary. It was your best decision yet (aside from adopting Desi) ā¤. Your home looks great and these times with grandchildren cannot be gotten back once time marches on for them and yourself.
I say to those moving ālook forward with a childās excitement and curiosityā and only glance back once in awhile with cherished memories. Go out and make new memories.
Has it really been 8 years this June since my husband passed away. I need to make myself get out among people and make friends. Take care and enjoy the spring time. ā¤āļøšŗšøšš·š¾
Beautiful story thank you. I am 70 thinking the same thing, should I, you make me see that I could do this as well. Blessings always.
Oh Susan…
Thank you for opening your heart and home to us. This has got to be my most favorite glimpse into your life. The beauty of your words, your artist expression captured in your filming and editing, and the way you incorporate them into your decorating is just so inspiring. I admire your boldness in making your move, a defining moment in history that will change your heart forever in so many ways…your family is blessed to have you so nearby. What value you have added to their lives, though I know you'd say the same! Thank you for sharing your talent with us…and Dezi singing is the cherry on the top!ā¤
Blessings,
Cathyā¤š
..I'm an intellectual artist…lol…I'm stuck in the middle….
I'm going back to "my old life"… after having 6 years away and on my own… but as a more knowledgeable, humbled and patient, stronger, clearer and happier self…
I'm not the same person now and I believe I can "go back" so to speak, in a way where it can be new and I can continue to heal…
Thank you as alwaysš»ā¤ especially this beautiful video.. such honesty and candour… and the right decisionš¦
Dear Susan, What a gloriousā¦even luxurious, blessed life you and I haveā¦as well as all we brave women who move within the realm of prayer, trusting and thanking God for His giftsā£ļøThank you for being a slice of joy in my life, my dearā£ļø Love, Toni
Beautiful post Susan..I think women can do so much better alone. Men canāt seem to handle being alone.
I'm struggling to find and make friends since I retired 2 years ago. A friend to do stuff on the weekends together, maybe short travel trips. My companion/roommate doesn't plan on retiring any time soon.
Females I meet are not free to do anything. Can't even stay over for tea without calling hubby ever 5 minutes. OMG
It's so disappointing. I really want a female friend with some sense of independence.
You are so brave and you give me strength to be brave too. Iām a 56 yo widow woman trying to get on my feet and feeling the unsteadiness. Your YouTube videos are an inspiration to me. Thank you so much Little Poet, Susan.
I would love to give you advice but I really donāt understandā¦..Didnāt you just move there? are you really going to disrupt everything and all those decorations to move after only a year? Why are you moving? Where? Am I completely misunderstanding? Thatās a lot of work.
You are so great, just have vapour rub occasionally when it suits you and benefits you as an equal, KAREN FROM SHROPSHIRE ā¤ā¤
You have such a warm and cozy house. š. Everyone house should have a front porch. Years ago thatās how people would meet. The good old days. My friend in Jersey where I moved from 4 years ago Play cards every Sat evening and have wine and whatever.
Iām your age, and am lonely also. But, at this point, I feel like Iād just end up being a nurse, maid, cook, and sex worker, lol. Do you mind me asking about your friend that had her husband leave her? With what you said, it sounds like he treated her like something you just put away in a little house for safe storage, and to not be bothered with. Is she doing ok?
Iām not sure if you know how much of an inspiration you must be to woman who can only live vicariously through your posts. You have courageously changed the rules of living life on your own terms. Youāve built a home and a sanctuary for you and Dezi and nobody can take that away from you! Who says you canāt have a loving companion in the kitchen who offers you a vapo-rub while maintaining healthy boundaries? Keep having those dinners dates and living your best life. Living alone doesnāt have to equate to loneliness. Youāre doing great!š
I donāt have any natural children but my husband has two from previous relationships. And I am so much of an introvert and quiet so when we got together with family my husband was always doing the talking. But now my husband has Alzheimerās and does not talk at all at gatherings so I now do the talking. And I am so much closer to my family now especially my niece and great niece and daughter in law and I am so happy!! I now engage with people and love getting together with family and people and catch up with their lives. I realize what I have been missing by engaging with people and thereās no shutting me up now :). So I too have made it a point to talk to people and see what is going on in their lives.
What a awesome life. š
My sister, whoās in her 70s, just helped me (69) answer my question about relocating last night (Sat) before watching your video today. I wrote down what she said: 1) stay put until all your doctors give you medical clearance that youāre truly well 2) secure new pt-time job to complete tasks already in motion at current home and 3)travel close to home/explore the many towns/states nearby and see if another place feels more like home than where you are living now. Short list, not exciting but objective from a beloved sister whoās seen more than the winds knocked out of my sails. As I watched the daffodils dance in the wind this morning, I felt satisfied with the plan. Itās definitely Spring š·and my heart does long for āfun!ā š So I will focus on gratitude and take it one day at a time. šš»
Susan, SO happy you & Desi made the perfect decision for you! You have a lovely home and many special memories from your first year š Wishing you oodles more, DearFriend! š
I am 63 and will be married 45 years this August. Met him when I was 17 married at 18 . Have 4 daughters . A year ago when I spoke up about our struggling relationship and wanting a change my husband simply decided he wanted a divorce. Itās been surreal. Itās a complicated financial situation to say the least . Not sure when the dust will settle but Iām sort of looking forward to moving on and making my own happiness and decision in the future. But itās also scary , sad and overwhelming ā¤
Grandma, you really see things…made me laugh… thanks again for a lovely video!
Love to you and sweet Desi.
Wondeful video, Sue!
Susan, I honestly feel you made the right decision moving to be near your son and family. It truly is what matters most in life. You can take your time doing what you enjoy most, taking pics here and there while our for a walk, looking after your garden which you love, thrift store shopping, thatās a good one! Lol! Also going out for lunch at your sonās restaurant, which is awesome I bet. Playing with your grandchildren. You have all of us every week to hear what you have to say, which for me is always interesting and helpful. The other million little things you do or are involved in all matter as well. Being a mom, a grandma, a good friend, an amazing decorator and an inspiration to so many. If thereās more meant for you in the future only time will tell. I believe this adorable house you live in is so worth celebrating. Absolutely! You definitely did not make a mistake and of course you know that now for sure. Forget the naysayers. They are not worthy of your time. I look forward as always to your next video as I know it will affect me somehow, in a good way of course. Hugs to Desi pleaseā¦Lisa š¤šš
Beautiful ā¤ many continuing blessings šš½ š
Itās been a year already?! Wow! You make it splendid and easy to watch!
I think your life is beautiful and perfect for you, Susan. Good job!
Beautiful sentiments as always. You definitely made the right move and deserve all your happiness. Love the finale with Desi singing šµ ā¤š