Let's Discuss it with Mr. Scoville

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  1. Hello Reese I am one of your fans that listens and rarely comments. I absolutely love you and your channel. I always feel like with you and your followers that I have friends I get to hear from every day. I, like many, do not have friends. I come here every day to have my heart filled. Thank you so much for opening the door and inviting me in❤❤❤

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  2. Im not replay. I watched live but was at work. Tommy. Thank you. I heard everything you applied to Reese and her insecurities. It so applies to me. I have been scared in a relationship and having trouble getting over it. Your words are GOLDEN. Thank you

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  3. Tommy's right about your Dad. I would like to add that due to the fact that your Dad made you feel special early on (your book) and then totally rejected you and your specialness (gave the book back) could be why you are drawn to older guys specifically.

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  4. what a great video Reese I had a alcoholic abusive father that use to beat the crap out of me every day from 5 til 14 and some of the things he called me and said to me should be illegal it really just screws you up for the rest of your life at least it has to me I love your channel Reese it helps me so much so thank you from the bottom of my heart Happy New Year to Huxley and Jeff xx

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  5. You were just handed an immediate program – and if there is one thing I have retained from SCN is the results of that without the program actually done – you will not get the intended success. He suggested a letter – sent or not is not the issue here – the action of getting what needs to be done here. If not done it is likely you will just keep hanging onto whatever really needs to be said or written to him. I felt concerned that Tommy off the screen barely 5 minutes- when responding in the chat you said in response to a comment about the need for a letter "I don't want to do that". Possibly reviewing what you "want" to do and/or "should" do should be taken into consideration, The feelings about your dad have been harbored by you for years – maybe it is time to review how holding onto them have "served" you in your actions. Well done on confronting all this.
    It is only because I wanted to catch Tommy that I saw this video and have "gone outside my lane" with this communication but I felt the need to communicate this.

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  6. There's one line in "Good Will Hunting" , when Robin Williams repeat over and over; IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT" and finally Will (Matt Damon 's character) gets it, and cries from deep within his heart. The one line in the film always has made me cry becsuse it's truth.
    To all or any of us who carry pain, guilt, doubt, fear…
    It's NOT our fault. As Tommy suggested; Journaling, writing letters can be so cathartic. Thank you you Tommy for the important/vital reminder. Thank you Reese for sharing.

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  7. It's not even just said as an adult, you say it as a parent. You say I'm a parent and as a parent I can't imagine emotionally hurting my child that way. He depends on me for everything growing up to become a good human being….

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  8. Reese, sweetie pie, you are a treasure. Thank you for being you. I HATE what your father said to you. He had no right! I hope he sees what he's done before he departs this earth. Always know, you're wonderful!!

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  9. Tommy's analysis of daughter- father rel omitted daughters who are same sex attracted, its his patriarchial bias – that men influence their daughters – straight women- then they won't let a man hit them. Total bs. He is not a scholar of psychology, and a little info can be dangerous or just plain ignorant! I know hundreds of women who had the greatest fathers, and get into abusive relationships. They didn't know abuse existed, it made them unprepared to protect themselves or recognize signs of danger. I have academically studied psychology for decades. Tommy is stating his opinion as though its fact.

    I began working with domestic violence and partner abuse survivors in 1980, and what the research proves, is that a dad has little to no influence on female choices in partners IN THIS SPECIFIC demographic to protect them. However, if their father was violent, then a daughter internalizes men are violent, and expects to have to avoid anyone, male or female, person or partner, who uses violence against others, and these females are resiliant because of growing up in environments with dangerous men/women influences.

    Another correction to his biased opinions, his assumption implied all upbringings are opposite sex married parents. The research in our "victorian values-based" patriarchial culture, shows that rapidly becoming the exception, not the norm.

    Another observation, he has only objectified his wives like trophies for bragging about. Who cares if they were
    hot "super model" looking or what dudes wanted to do to them, and he brags about their professions. That says nothing about their character and why can't they just be kind, caring, helpful or honest people or him say how big their hearts are for others.

    I hope he learns to understand feminist perspective, see his bias and how patriarchial his beliefs are, and how he sounds superficial old school guy with his objectification of women, not being inclusive of everyone, and resorting to shallow bloviating, it would show some personal growth…

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  10. I love that Tommy pushes the Journaling and letter writing. I have used it and it is way more helpful than you can imagine. He has a great head on his shoulders when it comes to addressing past trauma/abuse and healing from it.

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  11. Reese- Busting a cap goes back to the civil war where the rifles used a percussion cap to ignite the gun power. Apparently if you mix mercury with the right stuff and hit it hard enough you get fire

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