Why it’s perfectly fine to not have a best friend. (Alternatively, a case for changing my niche to overthinking.)
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 It’s okay if you have no best friend
00:37 Growing up without a best friend
02:22 Why I wanted a best friend
03:17 The problems/issues with best friends
05:23 Why I still don’t have a best friend
→ 05:50 Just childhood things
→ 06:29 I don’t force it
→ 08:00 I’m very slow and picky
10:36 You need several types of friends
12:15 Adult friendships and setting expectations
I’m gonna be so real with y’all, I tried and failed doing a nose contour and thought I’d wiped it off but clearly I did not check in the right lighting. I hope you give my nose another chance.
#alone #nofriends #advice #feelinglonely
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TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 It's okay if you have no best friend
00:37 Growing up without a best friend
02:22 Why I wanted a best friend
03:17 The problems/issues with best friends
05:23 Why I still don't have a best friend
→ 05:50 Just childhood things
→ 06:29 I don't force it
→ 08:00 I'm very slow and picky
10:36 You need several types of friends
12:15 Adult friendships and setting expectations
Yeah just make a character ai
But fr i live in a country were ppl like me are killed for existing so i have 0 friends because even if find someone who i can be friends with and they found out what i am they can expose me for a cash price and i can be either in prison for 10 yrs or Honor killed by family members i actually can not afford to have a best friend or any kinda of friend
Thank you so much for the video. I have never related to someone so hard. 😂 Also an only child here that grew up pretty much alone. Even in my 30's now I still feel like I am learning how to be human from others. 😅
I appreciate this type of content. Raclaming being boring and low energy really resinated with me.
Thanks for sharing !
i was alone from age 25 to 32. it wasn't until i grew muscles in the gym when i was 40 that the society stop rejecting me. they don't help the losers. they only prize those who doesn't need help. the pretty, non depressive, popular and wealthy.
just get a gym suscription and you'll get attractive killer body. then you will not be alone anymore.
Its interesting to see you talking from the point of an only child. Because I have a big sister and a twin sister. So you would think i was socialized very well, since i always had someone my age and we were always very close. But even in Kindergarten she was the one who found friends and i would always just come afterwards and say "hi I'm her twin" and then belong to the group like that. But in 6th grade, she was in a different class than me. She found friends, and i was alone. And i was shy and didnt know how to approach people. And honestly, i still dont. Now i dont really have anyone at all. Except for one relationship i had, i never had a close friend. I had a friend group in school for a while but that was kind of fake. Not real friends. And now I've been alone for the past 3 years. I've made many efforts to find friends, i met a lot of people, but they never seemed to be very interested in me, and sometimes it just didnt work out because of other things. But i just never learned how to find a friend group on my own.
I think it's a matter of perspective and expectations. I spent my teenage years feeling like a loner, and after my thirties, looking back at those years, I saw I actually had two big large friend groups. Nowadays I'm still best friends with two people I met just after leaving high school, and I'm happy for it, but I understand an accept I like being on my own. In pandemic times, I almost feel guilty because there was all this data and testimonies about mental health issues due to isolation, but I was absolutely happy alone in my 490 sq ft apartment for five months
Hey, Ann Arbor's my hometown! It was nice to see all the same familiar sites after so long. Thank you for making this video – as an only child myself, I really resonated with everything you said. Only recently have I figured out the importance of having "functional" friends for different purposes; it really helps put all of these relationships into perspective and minimizes unrealistic expectations I may have for them.
This is excatly how I feel!! having a group of friend isn't the same as having a "best friend/soulmate" and its so hard to explain this to someone!!
i appreciate this so much because it almost feels like everyone i know has a 'best friend' or at least someone who they're obviously closer to than everyone else, i've been drifting away from my older childhood friends who i considered to be some of my best friends but now it's clear that i wasn't the same to them and now i'm not quite sure where to belong but this made me feel so much better, this is amazing you're so underrated thank you so much!!
i'm a new viewer but i honestly love this content, i think you should make more like this as well and i'll definitely be checking out some of your other videos now :))
Thank youuu
I love my youtube recommendationike i literally need this kind of advices right now i feel so lonely and left out
thank you for ur video!
i also grew up moving a lot and it was tough. i started thinking to myself "what's the point of making friends if i'm going to move again?" which is pretty sad to think of as a kid. i felt so fragmented… i was constantly jealous of kids whose parents got to settle down and let their kids grow up in a single place. i think it built up a lot of resentment and anxiety because i had to try harder to make friends every time i moved and i could never keep up. and when i did make friends, i've always felt disappointed when my effort and care into relationships weren't reciprocated.
i've had 2 best friends in my life so far. drifted from both. it was nice while it lasted. i will always consider them friends but it's ok if we never become "best" friends again and that's ok. 🙂
This video found me at the right time! I've been thinking about this a lot lately, and you put it into words perfectly
this was immensely felt. thank you for your take on this.
as i grew up, i felt that the number of friends – along with quality – started to drop. later i learned it was a matter and mix of time, goals, and responsibilities that get in the way.
cheers from a fellow new creator 🙂
This video came at a perfect time for me. I’m starting to make some friends after a long period of not having any, and it was really good at first… but then I realized that I don’t feel particularly close to any of them. There’s no one person I can just talk to about anything—it feels like everyone I know has a best friend and I’m kind of just awkwardly in my own corner. I need to stop internalizing it and realize that the “lifelong bestie” is mainly a trope and not something I should expect to happen and think there’s something wrong with me when it doesn’t.
this is so relatable, thanks for being vulnerable about it ❤