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First time I'm on here finally!!!
Guys. He didnt want to help till the kid was 3 years. By then she had checked out. He said she complained but he weaponized his incompetence. Then think about how he just couldn't bring down the nookie maintenance lower than 2.5 hours a week all while she was overwhelmed with raising a baby.
I had set an alarm to watch and it hadnāt started for the hour I checked then I saw the live and clicked only for it to be over (?) š¢ sad I missed it hopefully the tech issues get straightened, Iām excited to see yalls future explorations! š«¶š»
I love seeing you guys out and about. Refreshing.
Sam and Sophia look so much alike but which parent do they both look like? š
So, what Iām hearing is his wife took care of their child with limited support for 3 YEARS before he started to offer measurable support? She views him as someone that withheld support from her when she actually needed it for their child when she was postpartum. I hope he learns from this, great experiences will not make a person overlook abandonment.
Op is viewing this through the lens of someone who got to let their partner bear the brunt of child rearing and care for 3 years!!! I bet you if he had had to do all of that labor by himself heād resent her. The wife probably doesnāt want his help now because she figured out a routine and how to take care of their son BY HERSELF. A 3 year old is easier than a newborn in a lot of ways.
Not gonna lie, you guys had such a āstereotypical manā take which I get š I could obviously be wrong but from reading between the very verbose lines of the story, OP glossed over his wife exhibiting depression symptoms and alluded to having minimal involvement with their child until the kid was 3 years old. OP very much could have offered counseling or other options prior to the wife saying she wants to leave but the details they provide make it seem like it was only in reaction to current events. The story is missing critical details and honestly reminds me of academic fluff from when I was in college š
Anime nights??? I now love you even more!!!!
If the parents are not happy the kids will know. They will feel it… you don't have to say anything to them. They aren't as clueless as some people assume.
As former military, DO NOT GET MARRIED AND JOIN THE MILITARY!
Quite hypicritical, when they claim about how a chatter doesnt trust the story and Ok story time straight up says why read it, then list stories but about how they enjoyed stories they didnt trust. A week ago they didnt finish a story cause "it didnt seem real"
I cannot be the only one seeing the raging red flags in this story? I can guarantee the wife never said āWE are coasting/have it to easy.ā Bro spends more time balancing his life spreadsheet than he does actually putting time and energy into their relationship. āWe only fight 3 times a year on average.ā With a small child? Yeah, right. More likely this womanās needs have been invalidated, minimized, and ignored so she shut up and went into survival mode while the baby was small. She told him 3 YEARS AGO, she needed support and was likely suffering from PPD with a new born and his apparent response was ābut the baby prefers you!ā (weaponized incompetence) This guy is not a reliable narrator. You cannot quantify human emotion in excel. He has so much time to make relationship spreadsheets because he isnāt helping her with anything! Yet expects her to host his parents 5 or 6 times a year with a baby while engaging in an active social life, sex almost 2x a day and working. But no one can see why sheās wants to leave? š¤š
āWe are the chaos that narrates your lifeā needs to be on some merch STAT
Also as a child of divorce I thank god every day that my parents knew better than to expose me to the toxicity of their relationship!!!
Op sounds exhausting!
You guys need to read the story again because you didnāt understand it. He lived his dream life and she did everything, especially for the baby. She is not preventing his relationship with his child. He didnāt develop any relationship and wants to play occasional fun dad after three years. He sounds like a nightmare!!! She figured out she doesnāt need him because he proofed himself to be useless as a grown up husband and father after the baby arrived.
I feel horrible I am sooo behind been busy š¢
Also at 1:01, POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS!!!
I, unfortunately, only this year started with my kids. The difference is amazing!!
Growing up as a āsticks and stonesā kid I was unaware of the fact that feelings biologically mattered (I liked science, not English, ifykn).
Being āemoā was dismissed as a āphaseā. Itās not a āPhaseā, we saw it happening, recognized it was happening and dismissed it as teenage hormones š„². Mental health is nothing but chemistry.
With the growing demand of actual fact based science, I am so happy for this next generation, to be able to be themselves. Imagine growing up realizing you arenāt āweirdā, it could actually be something as simple as you have weird micro allergy to pine cones (š¤Æ, donāt ask why). Honestly, what seems like 99% of the intellectual life on this planet is at least little neuro spicy.
Or on the other hand, now being able to understand your limits as a being influenced through nothing but the misinterpreted, misunderstandings of people who didnāt even know what hat they were messing with looking in a mirror. Even medical science at best is at 99% accurate (7830458560x.01=78360*) which leaves ~783460 unaccounted for.
Please for ever loving fuck. Go easy on yourself. There are in my *artist math*, at least theoretically, 7,830,460 other beings on this planet that understand and are cheering for you. Keep it up.
So many women go through that road as wife in the first story, and the ones that went through it can say that she probably was overwhelmed and he just didn't think to help. The kid was crying, like all kids child preferred mother, you just take it and distract it. You play music, take a toy, jump and tickle. Watch YouTube videos goq to bond with a child. I think this is typical point of men that doesn't understand that kid, work and home is too much! Just hire help if you have money, help to clean or nanny.
Missed the live but Iāll be sure to catch the next one!! Been sick for a week now. Finally joined the discord!! ā¤ā¤
The fact that the husband had no idea why she wants to leave, tells me everything I need to know.
1:23:04 my fiancƩe doesn't want me to meet her whole side of the family because she doesn't like them except her father and one of her aunt. I still want to meet them at least once but she thinks it would destroy our relationship which I don't understand. Any advice would be greatly appreciated and do understand op a lot
HORMONES! People! drastic changes, check hormones, cheating, brain scan respectively.
She has switched to mom mode .. too far. Some people get sort of obsessed with parenting, att
I wonder if he also knows how much hours his wife spends caring for the baby and doing the household, as he is knowing how many hours per week they have se*?
I guess not.
He also does not support her at all. If he would help in the household he would have said us what he was doing and how many hours of the week.
She should NOT have to tell him that he has also take care about THEIR kid and do THEIR household…..dude should do that himself.
He is one of the men who think they do soooooo much and really wanna help…but actually they don't.
Another day, another woman using her husbandās/bfās deepest insecurity casually in an argument against them. This is why men say , āDONāT TELL YOUR WOMAN YOUR FEELINGS.ā Because of shit like that. A woman almost always will use, laugh, mock, or ridicule your deepest insecurities against you, bet. Just give it time, almost every woman, and unfortunately every guy winds up learning this the hard way.
Wish I didn't miss stream I had a c section and had to miss it unfortunately was too loopy to watch after getting out of the hospital but thank you guys my baby is obsessed with listening it calms her down
Unfortunately you guys clearly cant see it from an overworked mothers point of view. Waited years to offer minimal help and by then it was too late. She works full time and parents full time and still has to accomodate to ops needs. Just unnaceptable. You can tell none of you have any children with this point of view. If you think offering to make a lunch and take him to school is efficient enough help…you clearly have no grasp on parenting.
Last story – I think all this shows is how deeply the husband's lack of communication skills goes… he won't tell his parents for 3 years, shows he keeps everything bottled up and is just existing with his parents. The wife's observation is of a surface level connection. He doesn't talk to OP and explain everything, and probably is now lumping her in the same group as his parents. He starts messaging OnlyFans models because he is escaping to porn to make himself feel better… but obviously it is a fake feel better. He had no one to learn good communication skills from, and is too clueless to see that now that life set up the prrfect opportunity to learn to be better.
Gotta be honest guysā¦I donāt like the new name, āok storytime.ā I think you shouldāve went back to, āInternet Boys.ā šš nah iām kidding, I like the rebrand
Husband in the first story says that they never fight, and that when they do fight it's more like them asking for space and then they come together and all is forgotton. It sounds as if they never actually talked about the problems inside of their relationship. And the fact that the husband believes all things are better afterwards suggest that it's his side of the argument that's the problem. When she asks for space he just drops the subject and never asks about it again. He doesn't check in with her afterwards to see if she's okay or if she wants to talk about how she feels again. This is why I believe she has likely voiced the problems in the past and stopped voicing the problems, because nothing changed. It was a waste of effort, because when she gets frustrated and asks for space, he takes her silence as a sign that the conversation is over. Then you consider the fact that their demanding sex life was a compromise, in his own words, and that compromise was also way too much for what she wanted to the point she suggested he get a side piece, suggests that even when they do compromise it is not in her favor. What woman has two and a half hours to spare per session while she's also the main caretaker? This is classic walk away wife syndrome. Check out of the relationship, get your ducks in a row, and then leave.
For the military married thingā¦ yeah itās pretty bad. One of my best friends got married at 17 so she could move and live with her husband at the time. He physically, emotionally and financially abused her. He wouldnāt let her buy much of anything and ended up weighing like 87 pounds because he wouldnāt let her buy food. There is a lot of cheating going on in the Army because of people marrying young, etc. towards the end of her relationship, he pulled a pew pew on her and she barricaded herself in the bathroom. It pushes people to tie themselves to people who they donāt really knowā¦.
Iād like to hear her side of the story. Itās hard to tell without context from both sides.
Yāall had such a bad take on the first story. A big indicator of lying is when you give too much information and OP is the classic gaslighter. His wife probably spent years trying to get him to support her, raise their kid, go to therapy, etc. There is a reason why their kid prefers the momā¦it means he wasnāt present enough to create a bond. When his wife finally had enough and told him she was leaving, thatās when he started trying.
First storyā¦ I bet OP has untreated postpartum depression.
Did anyone else hear something other than "his stepmom RAISED him" š³š³š³
8:36 I thought that was another reason for the divorce OMG! Like she wasnāt tight enough or something! š¤¦š¾āāļøššššš
Yeah, I love that I know I won't run out of content to watch thanks to you guys while traveling across the country. I'm currently traveling through Texas/New Mexico so a little over halfway there I think. āŗļø
Yeah op sucks he gave up on his son cause he ssid mom first which so did i but i doubt my dad stopped being a dad for that reason
Kid might have been crying for Mommy because Daddy sucked at making the child feel loved and cared for but to some degree itās normal in my experience. Wife might refuse help because of the kid is showing up messy or their lunch isnāt healthy that reflects on the Mom. Men in society can do bare minimum and be looked like as a great Dad while Moms are harshly criticized. Maybe she waited to talk to him because he is sensitive to any feedback I have experienced that for sure. When she complained about work he should have asked if she wants to be a stay at home mom or wanted to choose another career like thatās just one example of showing you actually hear and care about your wifeās needs. Honestly she shouldnāt have viewed her voicing her stressors as complaintsā¦ it sounds like sheās been ignored and shut down for a long time to me itās pretty common after couples become parents coming from my therapist.
19:50 so if he wants to be able to stay together, heās going to have to think about the last three years and what his wife sacrificed while working childcare and entertaining his family build a machine go back in time and put some effort in to having a family and not just having a live in nanny smex worker who pays half the bills. if any man ever says my baby just wants their mom more slap them slap, them because what ?? Take that baby from their mom already everybody deserves the same amount of downtime in a relationship thatās called a partnership if youāre getting five hours to make a Excel spreadsheet, your wife should be able to have five hours to do whatever she wants with you caring for YOUR OWN CHILD
24:50 yeah theyāre not connecting to each other because for three years he let her raise their baby by herself. Do you know how horrible it is to be a single parent in a relationship? Letās come back round to that again for emphasis, she single parent in a marriage, she made a whole human and was expected to perform exactly as she was before having one. It takes seven years to heal from any kind of injury. Add having a human come out of you, she busted her behind doing everything she did before plus raised a whole human by herself pretty much and his own confession, got all the glory of the perfect family now heās going to try and come in as father of the year when itās finally easy and she has learned to be completely independent of his help all the three years of work asking for help asking for CHILD support like he made mention briefly but was the ISSUE and he just goes. āOh, but the baby preferred you.ā she even voiced how she wanted to have less intimate time and he still couldnāt even figure out how to take care of himself for her for that.
Story 1 needs the wife's version. I don't think you guys really understood how OP was painting such a rosy picture of his role. He clearly didn't give his wife support in a way that she needed. He offered what was comfortable or convenient for him.
23:00 john's right, he was prob not listening, too busy analysing. š
I thought Trishaās daughter name was Malibu not Elizabeth but I havenāt kept up with her for a while.