Tbh, it was not easy; however, I am super grateful I got to learn it at the age of 26 itself.
Well, being an emotionally sensitive person without awareness or practice in emotional intelligence, “what others will think” drove me crazy and made me focus ONLY on the worst-case scenarios. I was preparing for the worst as the book “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living” suggested, which turned out to be putting me into depression. Because what we focus on becomes our reality. Without a mentor by my side, I picked the wrong lesson from the book naively and stuck to it until I went to the train tracks, and even for a while after that.
I cared too much about what others would think. That made me angry, depressed, cold, and super defensive during 2019.
After working on my subconscious programming—not as in a general book but with an angelic mentor by my side—I did my subconscious programming. I consistently opened my mind to learn new ways of living. How a simple life without many materials can save me a lot of time from organizing and cleaning, how a simple life doing what I love fuels my happiness, how a simple life can be without loans and debts in exchange for corporate slavery, etc.
I realized “Nobody cared” when I went to the train tracks. Nobody. I was alone there facing my impulsive thoughts. I couldn’t even trust my parents to open up about the severe issues I was going through with my job insecurities, comparing life with others, and a fatal disease too.
At that point, nothing mattered. While I was admitted to the hospital, I saw a mom getting admitted in the evening, and the next day her daughter was crying, being mom-less. Nobody cared; whatever it is, she had to face it alone. “The thoughts of what others think” don’t matter when you lose something or don’t get what you wanted.
I, too, had dreams. The thought of “what others think” never paid my bills or flight tickets.
The key thing is, I STOOD UP for myself. I faced my worst fears alone. And I survived that, where everybody in my life then saw less of me, even blocked me. Loved ones only felt pity for me.
I am most proud about standing up for myself. That is the best ever decision I ever made, Fighting for what I deserve, instead of running in the boring hamster wheel.
I survived that and learned it is only my perception that they are thinking this or that about me. Guess what, none of them are in my life right now. So all that time I was worrying about “what they will think of me” was a WASTE.
It turned out, just like me, most people were worrying and wondering, “Does that person think less of me?” “Maybe he/she does.” “I am sure he/she does.”
And all I cared about was my job security. For example, if a senior at the office noticed one of my mistakes out of the 99 good things I did, I would think and overthink about that one mistake for many MONTHS. I was that bad. “What if I get a black mark? What if I don’t get promoted? What if I stay without work recognition and my juniors in the team get promoted? What if I lose respect? How will I face these people again? Won’t they think less of me? How can I not hate myself if that happens?”
Constantly, I was chewing these thoughts in my mind again and again like a cow. Chewing, chewing, chewing. And the worst happened on April 26, 2019. And that was not even the fatal disease. Just work conflicts. Majorly because I was not brave and self confident. Now I have become brave enough to overcome and post about it proudly.
All that I feared happened in reality. How? That’s the law of the mind. I started seeing proof of all those worst-case scenarios. The Reticular Activation System went ahead and found those proofs to satisfy my worst-case proofs to be real.
I lost everything. I was at rock bottom for 6-8 months. I went through those phases of denial, anger, bargaining, and depression, severely.
Toughest, harshest lessons happened.
Fast forward to 2021, I got a 140% hike, earning six figures every month, went shopping without looking at price tags, donated, invested in myself, etc.
But in that one year of the 2020 lockdown, I came out of the depression. That showed me if I could survive the worst I was living in my mind first and then in reality, then if I, the super pessimistic PAST me, can become happy, maybe even if I go to the worst again, there is a chance that I could become happy again. This positive proof is all I have even during low moments I face even today. I say to myself, “Baby, remember from where you have risen like a phoenix bird from. Compared to that, this problem is nothing. Now you have great self-confidence and skills with strong proofs as testimonials.” And guess what I never go near the worst case, coz I focus on the best case and best cases are happening a lot.
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Tbh, it was not easy; however, I am super grateful I got to learn it at the age of 26 itself.
Well, being an emotionally sensitive person without awareness or practice in emotional intelligence, “what others will think” drove me crazy and made me focus ONLY on the worst-case scenarios. I was preparing for the worst as the book "How to Stop Worrying and Start Living" suggested, which turned out to be putting me into depression. Because what we focus on becomes our reality. Without a mentor by my side, I picked the wrong lesson from the book naively and stuck to it until I went to the train tracks, and even for a while after that.
I cared too much about what others would think. That made me angry, depressed, cold, and super defensive during 2019.
After working on my subconscious programming—not as in a general book but with an angelic mentor by my side—I did my subconscious programming. I consistently opened my mind to learn new ways of living. How a simple life without many materials can save me a lot of time from organizing and cleaning, how a simple life doing what I love fuels my happiness, how a simple life can be without loans and debts in exchange for corporate slavery, etc.
I realized “Nobody cared” when I went to the train tracks. Nobody. I was alone there facing my impulsive thoughts. I couldn’t even trust my parents to open up about the severe issues I was going through with my job insecurities, comparing life with others, and a fatal disease too.
At that point, nothing mattered. While I was admitted to the hospital, I saw a mom getting admitted in the evening, and the next day her daughter was crying, being mom-less. Nobody cared; whatever it is, she had to face it alone. “The thoughts of what others think” don’t matter when you lose something or don’t get what you wanted.
I, too, had dreams. The thought of “what others think” never paid my bills or flight tickets.
The key thing is, I STOOD UP for myself. I faced my worst fears alone. And I survived that, where everybody in my life then saw less of me, even blocked me. Loved ones only felt pity for me.
I am most proud about standing up for myself. That is the best ever decision I ever made, Fighting for what I deserve, instead of running in the boring hamster wheel.
I survived that and learned it is only my perception that they are thinking this or that about me. Guess what, none of them are in my life right now. So all that time I was worrying about “what they will think of me” was a WASTE.
It turned out, just like me, most people were worrying and wondering, “Does that person think less of me?” “Maybe he/she does.” “I am sure he/she does.”
And all I cared about was my job security. For example, if a senior at the office noticed one of my mistakes out of the 99 good things I did, I would think and overthink about that one mistake for many MONTHS. I was that bad. “What if I get a black mark? What if I don’t get promoted? What if I stay without work recognition and my juniors in the team get promoted? What if I lose respect? How will I face these people again? Won’t they think less of me? How can I not hate myself if that happens?”
Constantly, I was chewing these thoughts in my mind again and again like a cow. Chewing, chewing, chewing. And the worst happened on April 26, 2019. And that was not even the fatal disease. Just work conflicts. Majorly because I was not brave and self confident. Now I have become brave enough to overcome and post about it proudly.
All that I feared happened in reality. How? That’s the law of the mind. I started seeing proof of all those worst-case scenarios. The Reticular Activation System went ahead and found those proofs to satisfy my worst-case proofs to be real.
I lost everything. I was at rock bottom for 6-8 months. I went through those phases of denial, anger, bargaining, and depression, severely.
Toughest, harshest lessons happened.
Fast forward to 2021, I got a 140% hike, earning six figures every month, went shopping without looking at price tags, donated, invested in myself, etc.
But in that one year of the 2020 lockdown, I came out of the depression. That showed me if I could survive the worst I was living in my mind first and then in reality, then if I, the super pessimistic PAST me, can become happy, maybe even if I go to the worst again, there is a chance that I could become happy again. This positive proof is all I have even during low moments I face even today. I say to myself, “Baby, remember from where you have risen like a phoenix bird from. Compared to that, this problem is nothing. Now you have great self-confidence and skills with strong proofs as testimonials.” And guess what I never go near the worst case, coz I focus on the best case and best cases are happening a lot.
The braver I followed my heart, the more those people and thoughts about what others think kept reducing and reducing. Nowadays, it is there; however, I am happy for most of the time, gratefully living my best life.
The key is to let go of “what others will think.” Your brave actions will help you progress, gather positive proofs, and increase your self-esteem. The advice or fears from people who just exist and don’t live truly happily cannot affect you.
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