Difficult Family – Nouman Ali Khan – Khutbah at Dar Alnoor



Allah describes family as a blessing that we should be grateful for.
In this Khutbah Ustadh Nouman offers advice from the Qur’an on how to approach difficult families with love and compassion.

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32 thoughts on “Difficult Family – Nouman Ali Khan – Khutbah at Dar Alnoor”

  1. thinking exactly like this after 4 years of pain caused by my parents/sibling/family. I was not like this at the beginning. I became bitter, in time, I am alone, no circle around me–cannot feel strong. Have to survive alone, as always. Being alone makes you bitter. They shatter you in pieces and they are strong together. They have their arguments, statements ready. They act like you are an enemy. hatred for your hijab, your Islam, your salah, your covering. you always be a failure, with low income, a divorcee, always be criticized. 4 years in a row. no justice no appreciation in the family. resisting just no to cut ties for years. cut ties with the sibling last month—he not more than a foreigner for decades. so sure I was mixed up with another baby at the hospital.

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  2. SUBHAN ALLAH ALLAHU Akbar Shamsi it's one thing you have a caring loving bond with siblings but siblings has their own characteristics but then the PROBLEM START where the KIDS can break the bond if the PARENT ALLOWED the kid to DISRESPECT towards the elderly

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  3. Please add Turkish translation of all videos, it is very important for me, add every new video you will upload in Turkish, I follow you all the time, but I do not understand Turkish when there is no translation

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  4. Asalamu Alequmu wa Rehamatullahi wa Barkatuhu ❤️ jazzak Allah khair.🤲👍🏻can this same lecture khutba be given in urdu for those who can't understand English edp pakistan where this prevails mostly.❤️👍🏻

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  5. سنن ابو داود ٦٣٨

    حَدَّثَنَا مُوسَى بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏حَدَّثَنَا أَبَانُ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى، ‏‏‏‏‏‏عَنْ أَبِي جَعْفَرٍ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏عَنْ عَطَاءِ بْنِ يَسَارٍ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏قَالَ:‏‏‏‏ بَيْنَمَا رَجُلٌ يُصَلِّي مُسْبِلًا إِزَارَهُ إِذْ قَالَ لَهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ:‏‏‏‏ اذْهَبْ فَتَوَضَّأْ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏فَذَهَبَ فَتَوَضَّأَ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏ثُمَّ جَاءَ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏ثُمَّ قَالَ:‏‏‏‏ اذْهَبْ فَتَوَضَّأْ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏فَذَهَبَ فَتَوَضَّأَ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏ثُمَّ جَاءَ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏فَقَالَ لَهُ رَجُلٌ:‏‏‏‏ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏مَا لَكَ أَمَرْتَهُ أَنْ يَتَوَضَّأَ ثُمَّ سَكَتَّ عَنْهُ ؟ فَقَالَ:‏‏‏‏ إِنَّهُ كَانَ يُصَلِّي وَهُوَ مُسْبِلٌ إِزَارَهُ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏وَإِنَّ اللَّهَ تَعَالَى لَا يَقْبَلُ صَلَاةَ رَجُلٍ مُسْبِلٍ إِزَارَهُ .

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  6. بخاري ٥٧٨٧

    حَدَّثَنَا آدَمُ ، حَدَّثَنَا شُعْبَةُ ، حَدَّثَنَا سَعِيدُ بْنُ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الْمَقْبُرِيُّ ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ، قَالَ : مَا أَسْفَلَ مِنَ الْكَعْبَيْنِ مِنَ الْإِزَارِ فَفِي النَّارِ .

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  7. سنن ابو داؤد ٤٠٤٨

    حَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى، ‏‏‏‏‏‏عَنْ أَبِي غِفَارٍ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو تَمِيمَةَ الْهُجَيْمِي وَأَبُو تَمِيمَةَ اسْمُهُ طَرِيفُ بْنُ مُجَالِدُّ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏عَنْ أَبِي جُرَيٍّ جَابِرِ بْنِ سُلَيْمٍ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏قَالَ:‏‏‏‏ رَأَيْتُ رَجُلًا يَصْدُرُ النَّاسُ عَنْ رَأْيِهِ لَا يَقُولُ شَيْئًا إِلَّا صَدَرُوا عَنْهُ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏قُلْتُ:‏‏‏‏ مَنْ هَذَا ؟ قَالُوا:‏‏‏‏ هَذَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏قُلْتُ:‏‏‏‏ عَلَيْكَ السَّلَامُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ مَرَّتَيْنِ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏قَالَ:‏‏‏‏ لَا تَقُلْ عَلَيْكَ السَّلَامُ فَإِنَّ عَلَيْكَ السَّلَامُ تَحِيَّةُ الْمَيِّتِ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏قُلِ السَّلَامُ عَلَيْكَ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏قَالَ:‏‏‏‏ قُلْتُ أَنْتَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏قَالَ:‏‏‏‏ أَنَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ الَّذِي إِذَا أَصَابَكَ ضُرٌّ فَدَعَوْتَهُ كَشَفَهُ عَنْكَ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏وَإِنْ أَصَابَكَ عَامُ سَنَةٍ فَدَعَوْتَهُ أَنْبَتَهَا لَكَ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏وَإِذَا كُنْتَ بِأَرْضٍ قَفْرَاءَ أَوْ فَلَاةٍ فَضَلَّتْ رَاحِلَتُكَ فَدَعَوْتَهُ رَدَّهَا عَلَيْكَ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏قَالَ:‏‏‏‏ قُلْتُ اعْهَدْ إِلَيَّ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏قَالَ:‏‏‏‏ لَا تَسُبَّنَّ أَحَدًا، ‏‏‏‏‏‏قَالَ:‏‏‏‏ فَمَا سَبَبْتُ بَعْدَهُ حُرًّا وَلَا عَبْدًا وَلَا بَعِيرًا وَلَا شَاةً، ‏‏‏‏‏‏قَالَ:‏‏‏‏ وَلَا تَحْقِرَنَّ شَيْئًا مِنَ الْمَعْرُوفِ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏وَأَنْ تُكَلِّمَ أَخَاكَ وَأَنْتَ مُنْبَسِطٌ إِلَيْهِ وَجْهُكَ إِنَّ ذَلِكَ مِنَ الْمَعْرُوفِ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏وَارْفَعْ إِزَارَكَ إِلَى نِصْفِ السَّاقِ فَإِنْ أَبَيْتَ فَإِلَى الْكَعْبَيْنِ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏وَإِيَّاكَ وَإِسْبَالَ الْإِزَارِ فَإِنَّهَا مِنَ الْمَخِيلَةِ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏وَإِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ الْمَخِيلَةَ، ‏‏‏‏‏‏وَإِنِ امْرُؤٌ شَتَمَكَ وَعَيَّرَكَ بِمَا يَعْلَمُ فِيكَ فَلَا تُعَيِّرْهُ بِمَا تَعْلَمُ فِيهِ فَإِنَّمَا وَبَالُ ذَلِكَ عَلَيْهِ .

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  8. For me the problem with allowing cousin A to be comfortable to talk bad about cousin B is that this will filter into Cousin A's kids treating their cousins the same way and then we have another generation where one side of the family styles themselves as royals and the rest of the family as peasants

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  9. Lâ Hawla wa lâ Quwwata illâ billâhi'l aliyul Aziim. Assalaamualaykum (peace be upon you). Alhamdulillâhi Rabbil âlamiin. Allâhumma Salli alâ Seyyidinâ Mawlâna Muhammadin wa Sallim. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. May ALLÂH SWT Reward you. May ALLÂH SWT Make it easy for all and Guide, Protect, Bless, Help us and Grant all of us Jannah. Ameen Ameen Ameen Ameen Ameen Ameen…

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  10. I don't have these blessings, and I pray to Allah to bless me with these neamts/blessings in this tough period of my life while I am feeling so lonely and I am tired of living alone far from my family and in a open environment that sins are really easy to do.
    May Allah protect me and all other Muslims.

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  11. I find this topic a really interesting one and always have always learned a lot from Nouman Ali. I get what you are saying in this speech and it is very good advice; however it doesn't take into account the fact that no matter how many meetings you have with some family members to address issues of concern to establish peace, the outcome isn't going to be a desired one and actually nothing is going to be resolved. Even if you sit down and have a conversation with some people, always being respectful, people that are narcissistic are going to avoid accountability and responsibility for any hurt or pain that they have caused. In my experience, it is best to acknowledge that these people are the way that they are and Allah knows best; but for your own peace and mental health, just pray for these people but keep your distance. This way, you can't keep getting manipulated and gaslighted by these people and you're protecting yourself from ongoing abuse.

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  12. I grew up with a very abusive father both physically and mentally. My father traumatized my whole life. My father hit would beat on my mother and us (me and my siblings). Every memory I have of my father are just memories I don’t wish upon any child. I stopped talking to my father. I tried to forgive him but I know if I let him back into my life the abuse will continue. Everyone I know tells me I’m a bad muslim for this and I should let him abuse me and my family. I know that Islam would never be okay with men like my father and that’s all I need.

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  13. I’m so thankful for Allah for sending Ustad Nouman into this life. He’s opening access to understanding the Quran DEEPLY in second language, not arabic, for millions. May Allah grant him Jannah. Ameen.

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  14. Subhan Allah brother beautiful bayan may Allah grant understand of ALLAHS BOOK N LAWS TO every human being alive on this earth Aameen..specially all the men husbands on earth AAMEEN

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  15. I remember the first time when I found out that I was affected by magic and my own parents did that but Alhamdulillah Allah SWT gave me hidaya because of that black magic Alhamdulillah… I'm still suffering may Allah gave my parents and all muslim hidaya Amin

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  16. MashaAllah, his khutbah gives me goosebumps because there is one friend who was disliked by most of my friends. and they like to judge her and that she will never change… do who are we can decide the future? :"(

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  17. I agree but one question I have is where is the line? When is it okay to not talk to them? How much abuse and conversations that go nowhere will it take? People have limits. Is it until they are seriously contemplating suicide?

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