Hi and welcome back to another Car Conversation! Today’s topic is about overcoming resentment and anger.
Resentment: Is a negative feeling toward someone or something that emanates from the past.
Anger: Is an emotional response to a real or imagined injustice. Mark twain one said, “anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored, than to anything on which it is poured.” most often anger is a secondary emotion. It can come about due to something or someone that evokes feelings of hurt, fear, and or inadequacy in us.
Here are some ways you can get over your resentment:
1). Accept your feelings and emotions. Give yourself permission to really feel those negative emotion’s such as anger, rejection, disappointment, jealousy, or hurt. Trying to push those feelings away will only lead to resentment and anger. such as anger, rejection, disappointment, jealousy, or hurt. Trying to push those feelings away will only lead to resentment and anger.
2). Figure out what’s behind your resentment. Sometimes the cause of your resentment is obvious and sometimes it’s not. It’s important to figure out what the issue is, so you can start the healing process. Here are some questions to ask yourself:
1. When did your feelings of resentment start?
2. Was it one thing or mini things that caused you to feel this way?
3. Are your feelings directed at one person or several people?
3). Create a plan for your future. How you handle your situation Canon most often does add to your resentment. Making a plan for how you’re going to deal with your resentment, will help you to avoid resentment later on. Taking a proactive approach, will help you let go of some of the feelings you’re holding onto right now.
4). Stop your negative thoughts in their tracks. Since your resentment is typically based on past experiences, it’s normal to find yourself thinking about old hurts repeatedly. It can be hard, changing your thinking patterns, but with practice it will get better and easier. Try distracting yourself by calling, a friend, taking a walk, or reading a book.
5). Pull out your journal and write down your feelings. Writing is a great way to organize your thoughts and I can help you get to the root of your resentment. Write down why are you resent someone or some thing and how and why it’s affecting you right now.
6). Find healthy ways to release your emotions. You can do this by taking a walk, going for a run, taking a yoga class, through prayer and meditation sessions, or playing a sport do you like.
7). Talk to the person you resent. Be clear and direct as you use “I” statements. Make sure you speak assertively, so the person or people respect your boundaries.
8). Set realistic expectations about your outcome. Setting your expectations too high will leave you disappointed.
Bonus: Forgive the other person or people. It can be hard to do, but honestly holding onto grudges will only keep you from being able to heal and grow. Plus, when you are unable to forgive others, you only end up, stressing yourself out for no reason.
Books To Purchase:
21 Day Gratitude Journal: There Is Always Something To Be Grateful For- 21-Day Gratitude Journal: There Is Always Something To Be Grateful For: Arnold, Michelle: Amazon.com: Books
Love Has No Boundaries: A Story Of Friendship & Hope- Love Has No Boundaries: A Story Of Friendship & Hope: Swann, Ross, Arnold, Monique: 9798848727098: Amazon.com: Books
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