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Peace came when I was the parent I should be & simply documented his actions in case I needed the info later. I was NOTHING but professional & courteous in my communication. I followed my side of the orders to the tee.
Gray rocking works.
Great advice
Advice I wish someone had given me by the time I was 10:
Step 1: Don't live with anyone but yourself, and be celibate (to avoid potential pregnancies, unless you live in a pro-abortion state/nation). Don't use substances, and don't gamble, even in small amounts.
Step 2: Don't date anyone, don't get engaged, don't get married. Never add anyone as an authorized user on a Credit Card, and never be one, either. Never share a bank account with anyone, including your parents (including when you're a teen). Never pay a friend or relative for rent (including when over 18).
Step 3: Be financially independent ASAP (if your parents offer to help, don't accept; odds are good they're narcissists). Couch-surf, stay in a vehicle/shelters, whatever. Get on welfare while you qualify for it: you paid your taxes, so you paid for those programs – it's time those programs worked for you! Get off of welfare ASAP too, but keep that in your back pocket (play by their stupid rules, and vote for politicians who've been on welfare). Don't worry about charitable giving right now – always take the standard deduction (for US taxes). When on UI/EUC benefits, don't let them take taxes out, because the way the IRS rules work (again, in the US), you'll actually qualify to get money back, not pay it, when it comes tax time, whether they took those taxes out or not. (Dummies shouldn't even ask, but they do, so say "No.")
Step 4: Purchase in this order: vehicle, house, college. College comes last, not first, because that piece of paper won't get you anywhere anymore, and the instructors are being paid to say "Look it up online." Dumb, dumb, dumb! Put that last – it's too expensive to waste your meager "savings" on anymore, and you won't learn anything you can't learn online for free or with ads anyway.
Step 5: Maintain this excellent lifestyle you've worked hard to build for yourself, and don't share it with anyone! Your home and your vehicle are your sanctuary away from the world, and you need and deserve that! By now, you probably have more savings than you need for "rainy days" (which do come). Keep part and invest part in CDs or other wise, slow-growing investments. Don't invest more than 1% in the stock market (you're likely to lose it all, so plan on that). Spend part on charities, and spend part on helping the homeless (if you can't pick a charity, try Hollywood Food Coalition!). Your life's maintenance costs come first, but you should have at least something to divide up and spend this way by the time you're retirement age. If not, well, then we all voted for the wrong people, and that's on all our heads.
You do *not* need a spouse or kids to "be happy." If anything, all that nonsense will drain you and your finances. Especially if you were raised in a narcissistic home/family tree/etc. Don't burn your candle from both ends!
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How do i divorce with a narcissist that is on disability?
This interview was not helpful š¢ sorry to say this but where are the solutions? Whereās the direction to divorcing a Narc?
Great! I am going to be filing..and scared to death.
And I have nowhere to go.
With a better attorney than them thatās how šÆ
I have so much respect for attorney Demetria that she did realize she wasn't up to dealing with a narcissist and she did her research and became and expert in how to handle them at court! Thank you in the name of all your clients and other people carrying heavy memories of narcissistic abuse. I wish that all professionals would do this, attorneys, doctors, teachers, preachers, counselors etc, and would continue being interested in what they are doing and would keep learning.
It was such an uplifting experience for me to watch this interview. Thank you Dr. Ramani!
Have you ever dealt with a case where the abused is also the primary breadwinner? This is my case. My soon to be ex has been disabled for 14 years, heās on disability but has been working under the table for 10+years but because I donāt have concrete proof and he refuses to be honest, Iāve been court order to pay my abuser spousal support? Washington is a āno faultā state when it comes to divorce, even though I was covertly manipulated and emotionally and verbally abused for 26+ years by a narcissist it doesnāt matter. There seems to be no advocacy for emotional abuse victims which leaves me feeling abandoned by the system.
None of this will be an issue for my Son.
Heās currently trapped in a Coercive Abusive Relationship with a Covert Vulnerable Narcissist.
She has isolated him from his family and his homeland.
Weāre about to embark on another attempt to rescue him.
All he has to do is leave her in Canada and return to Australia.
He can just walk away and leave everything behind, his life is worth so much more.
I divorced a narcist. My strategy was first a list of result for the kids before we started taking about the money. Than the money part and kept daily stress for answers and communication with the person who had our case. Yes it was not 100 percent for me but my view was do it within 2 months so she could not get advised by āfriendsā. I managed it and able to close the chapter.
If I watched this video earlier my life would have been in much better place
What an informative video. Thanks.
The person I was married to would rage at the kids and myself, punch holes in the walls and doors, chase the cat around, ignore, and be incredibly selfish, show up late after work kinda drunk, sit on the computer when we needed him to engage, then we would go to church and sit in the pew , put his arm around me and rub his thumb on my shoulder. I felt this was all for show. . I was just so confused. I would shudder sometimes and look over at him and he was smiling not to be cruel but he seemed truely happy !!!The dichotomy just would blow my mind. I was so confused. Now I get it. I wish I didnāt have to know but wow am so glad I do know about narcissistic abuse ! Bite from the apple of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. ā¦..,
My family of originās way of dealing with emotional distress is not lost on me. Very similar but not nearly as severe. His family of origin was way ip on the spectrum imo. I feel partly to blame for not perceiving this. Could have saved everyone so much heartache. But! I am out thriving , my kids are going on with their lives , I have a house a new cat and a garden! There is life after the death of a thousand cuts! I say these things to encourage anyone going thru this especially when they paint one picture of themselves in public and another in private. So very common in this type of abuse! Good luck to each of you and thank you so much Darren for all your knowledge and work!
This is why I don't believe in marriage š at all, saw my mom in a Domestic Voilence š” marriage, no thanks
totally relatable. 7 year marriage and 5 years (so far!) into divorce…
I need help. My divorce was completely biased and discriminated towards me.
Im glad I donāt actually have any money. So good luck trying to get something from me in divorce…
Going through a divorce right now. She meets all the symptom of a covert narcissist. She wants to control everything! She is even refusing to abide by court orders as agreed upon by the attorneys with the sale of the home. It's all about control even though it will cost us BOTH a ton more money.
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Yeah over 36yrs
Thank You so muchā¤
I filed after 32 years of marriage with a malignant narcissist with sociopathic traits. In 2020. Iām here now in 2024 and still trying to finalize my divorce. We are jewelry owners of two successful stores of over 20 years . And he closed down stores emptied bank accounts, took all of our cash and claims to be broke and homeless to the courts . He is still running my store and has a girl friend since day one of me filing . He abandon our 12 year old son and two adult sons . Has a horrible smear campaign against us. Has changed lawyers 4 times. I hope I can be done with this evil beast soon. Itās the worse nightmare ever.