Paul Conti: Narcissism, Sociopathy, Envy, and the Nature of Good and Evil | Lex Fridman Podcast #357



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OUTLINE:
0:00 – Introduction
1:36 – Human Mind
19:16 – Evil
25:30 – Envy
48:33 – Narcissism
1:17:07 – Pride
1:34:20 – Death
1:49:10 – Trauma
2:14:14 – Therapy
2:28:25 – Subconscious mind
2:34:22 – Conversation
2:47:07 – Emotion
3:10:19 – Advice for young people

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30 thoughts on “Paul Conti: Narcissism, Sociopathy, Envy, and the Nature of Good and Evil | Lex Fridman Podcast #357”

  1. Here are the timestamps. Please check out our sponsors to support this podcast.
    0:00 – Introduction & sponsor mentions:
    – NetSuite: http://netsuite.com/lex to get free product tour
    – Indeed: https://indeed.com/lex to get $75 credit
    – InsideTracker: https://insidetracker.com/lex to get 20% off
    1:36 – Human Mind
    19:16 – Evil
    25:30 – Envy
    48:33 – Narcissism
    1:17:07 – Pride
    1:34:20 – Death
    1:49:10 – Trauma
    2:14:14 – Therapy
    2:28:25 – Subconscious mind
    2:34:22 – Conversation
    2:47:07 – Emotion
    3:10:19 – Advice for young people

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  2. There were immediate misunderstanding in this one. First, Lex misunderstands what Conti talks about reinforcing small habitual "good" behavior in small things we do and say, and how these are more important that we give it credit (nor does Lex in not even thinking he's saying that). Secondly, Conti very apparently does not know neural network computing if he thinks machines have never been a "black box" of sorts.

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  3. I find it beautiful that elephants experience deep sadness when a member of their herd dies.
    They morn for about 2 years.
    They make funerals for their lost members and rebuild the skeleton of the member.
    It's a beautiful thing, sadness is beautiful when it doesn't turn distructive .
    Every emotion can turn toxic so keeping our emotions under control and using them wisely is the key.
    Even anger is often used unwisely but under control anger can be used in a positive way.

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  4. Yeah… I don't think there's a lot of difference between jealousy and competitiveness in someone who's mind and motives are aligned. So I'm not surprised you noticed it, and I'm not surprised it worked for you. Always props to Lex.

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  5. Maaan, as a mental health tech myself working in psych facilities, I can't agree more with Dr. Conti about how poor of a system we have in place for stabilizing and helping people with mental illness ACTUALLY recover, but I hope it gets better in time.

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  6. One of the best books on trauma is:
    The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
    By Bessel van der Kolk
    The reviews on Conti's book on Amazon aren't great. Several cited they bought the book because Huberman recommended it and were disappointed. ( Fridman, Huberman, and Conti…..a little team )

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  7. Thank You Lex- Excellent as always. A deep rabbit hole, much of the subject I recognise to be under the heading of "emotional literacy" something that most people have (sadly) no clue about. Recognising what we are feeling and trying to understand the root of the emotion and tempering the impact of potential negative interactions. I sometimes still fail because I forget to look inwards. btw, I always understood jealousy to be a stronger emotion than envy, but then i'm English. Love the podcast. Cheers.

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  8. Within feelings context humans have plenty of choices although vulnerability puts them in different situations either bad or good, some unaware of the choice made, and this is the point of entrance for elites oportunity to grow whealth and exploite this human weakness called "feelings", I love this kind of balanced dance of yours Lex! Hugs and kisses!

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  9. I think ww2 is always going to be referenced in these discussions, Hitler is always given as an outstanding example of negative psychological traits. Mao or Stalin sometimes get brief mentions. I think that if someone wants to think about these things, an intelligent thing to do is to read Hitler's book. It would be stupid to talk about this stuff without having read his book. Having read his book, I think that Hitler is being completely mischaracterized. Of course, the holocaust would be cited as evidence for these opinions, even though there is no evidence of the holocaust ever happening. Eye witness accounts are nothing without corroborating physical evidence. Our minds are being warped and twisted into a new religion. I think that Christ, Aristotle, Plato and Kant have done excellent work on the nature of good and evil and I question the value of the science of it or that science can understand it.

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  10. Every once in awhile, a snippet of truth escapes those constantly running mouths of theirs. They can't help but show what's really going on because it makes them feel so clever and above everyone else to be completely opposite of who they claim to be. If you can name me one person, ommit strangers or the seals that surround them(cause they don't count), who's lives are better off with them being in it, I swear I'll kiss your ass. It's not possible. Best(orWorst)part of all? Try and escape…you dont get a choice whether or not you wanna be a part of their constant games and manipulations. They are way too cool to believe you walked away. And will remind you every chance they can what they truly think about you. They are just nasty awful ppl. I believe God's love can work miracles in a person's life, I'm testament to that. But you have to be willing to be honest with yourself and with others. They are not capable. They arent built like that. Be smart out there, stay away from bullies as much as possible. And get right with God and the one's in your life that cheer you on when you're doing well and call you out when you're fucking up. The make believe play pretend reality can be fun for lije two seconds. It gets very old very quickly and before you know it, you're just stuck…and that sucks. Much love to all you beautiful souls out there trying to be better!

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