Ntah, you are a pregnant woman giving birth. Everything is up to you. You laid out your birth plan and gave everyone their jobs. The mil was the ah for ignoring her instructions in favor of doing whatever the hell she pleased
It's a big deal because it's how you wanted your birth to go. The plan was already set and should have been executed the way it was agreed on. But hating her, you may feel justified in that, but that's just going to tear you up. Not her. And it's not really a reason to keep your kids from her. She didn't harm them. I understand wanting the plans to go how you said for them to go. It had got to where I didn't tell anybody my plans with my last two births. I get it
Bullshit! I hate it when people try to tell YOU how to feel and discount your feelings dismissively. Glad security dragged her out. Next time do not depend on other people. Get your Mom and kids and grandma there in an Uber.
Lol hell no she's the a hole you respect peoples birth plans you don't just Brut force your way into changing things not your body not your kids not your mother not your birth you do not get input
You are NOT overreacting. Anyone who is telling you this is gaslighting you. It is you baby, your birth, and if they (mostly MIL) aren’t going to respect your plan that you made so you can feel the most comfortable you can while giving birth after one that almost killed you, that is their choice, their problem, and you have every right to be upset
Oh no not the AH in fact the MIL is it's Ops body and choice on who sees her births meaning if she wants both she better freaking get both what the heck that's f ed up I'm sorry but if I was op mil would be dead to me as well
Not saying MIL is innocent – she is a huge huge AH. Agreeing to this plan and then not doing it the day of because she sounds jealous that your mom got to be with you twice and not her. But if your mom arrived just as you were giving birth, then who went and got her? Or can she drive herself? Also seems like if the plan was to go get your mom, kids, and grandma were they all at the same house cause then why when mom arrived did none of the other family members arrive? Cause stopping at 3 different places and then coming the hospital in a rush seems kind of stressful. And if mom could drive why not just have them all be responsible for getting themselves to the hospital?
SHE WOULD BE DEAD TO ME TO! Like if the one person who helped me when I almost died wasn’t there because you told her she needed to sleep you getting drop kicked and throws out the window IDC IF IM IN ABOUT TO GO IN LATER YOU AN’T STAYING IN THAT ROOM TILL YOU CALL THAT PERSON I NEED👹
Nah F that. You had a plan and didn’t hold up her end, then she changed it at the last minute like it was no big deal. It’s not her birth and it sounds like she just wanted to be the only grandparent to baby there. I’d be resentful forever.
It was a big deal! You are not the A-hole. Nobody asked her to plan for you, and she had the nerve to say, your Mom had already withness two births. She discounted your plan, and the lazy cow refused to pick everyone up when you couldn't.
MIL’s are always the same , mine ran away from home on the day we got married 😂 I hated her for this for months with strong dedication to never see her face again. But then she got sick and now I forgave her even tho I still don’t like her because she demands apology from me for not talking to her for months lol. Also my husband said I kinda need to accept that she would be jealous of whoever close to him.
It's always the one that get's screwed over and treated without respect that's "overreacting"
Your mother in law was in the wrong
your over reacting
Hell no she knew the plan she was an ahole
NTA. And your feelings are valid. Anyone who disagrees is apathetic and wrong. She crossed a line when you were at your most vulnerable
Nta. If you agree to a plan, stick to it. It's that simple.
Ntah, you are a pregnant woman giving birth. Everything is up to you. You laid out your birth plan and gave everyone their jobs. The mil was the ah for ignoring her instructions in favor of doing whatever the hell she pleased
It's a big deal because it's how you wanted your birth to go. The plan was already set and should have been executed the way it was agreed on. But hating her, you may feel justified in that, but that's just going to tear you up. Not her.
And it's not really a reason to keep your kids from her. She didn't harm them. I understand wanting the plans to go how you said for them to go. It had got to where I didn't tell anybody my plans with my last two births. I get it
Bullshit! I hate it when people try to tell YOU how to feel and discount your feelings dismissively. Glad security dragged her out. Next time do not depend on other people. Get your Mom and kids and grandma there in an Uber.
Lol hell no she's the a hole you respect peoples birth plans you don't just Brut force your way into changing things not your body not your kids not your mother not your birth you do not get input
Your mil is a selfish b. … I would ban from seeing the baby
. I hate her too
You are NOT overreacting. Anyone who is telling you this is gaslighting you. It is you baby, your birth, and if they (mostly MIL) aren’t going to respect your plan that you made so you can feel the most comfortable you can while giving birth after one that almost killed you, that is their choice, their problem, and you have every right to be upset
Its her life on the line so her choice. Imagine if she had died bro
No you aren't the ahole
Oh no not the AH in fact the MIL is it's Ops body and choice on who sees her births meaning if she wants both she better freaking get both what the heck that's f ed up I'm sorry but if I was op mil would be dead to me as well
I feel like we need to be able to charge people with a crime for using "you're overreacting" when CLEARLY nobody was overreacting…..
Not saying MIL is innocent – she is a huge huge AH. Agreeing to this plan and then not doing it the day of because she sounds jealous that your mom got to be with you twice and not her. But if your mom arrived just as you were giving birth, then who went and got her? Or can she drive herself? Also seems like if the plan was to go get your mom, kids, and grandma were they all at the same house cause then why when mom arrived did none of the other family members arrive? Cause stopping at 3 different places and then coming the hospital in a rush seems kind of stressful. And if mom could drive why not just have them all be responsible for getting themselves to the hospital?
Hats off to you for having another kid. I have PTSD from my delivery and told everyone in the delivery room that I would never do it again.
As someone coming from other country, why they need the whole Village to witness the birth?
bloody hell!! sky dives without a parachute
NOT OVERREACTING! OP IS NOT OVERREACTING!
No, honestly you're not. Because you came up with that birth plan and your birth plan should have been respected.
Nup you're Mil is in the wrong
No your not it’s about you not them
I think that means it wasn't a big deal in their eyes. My mom didn't get to be there for either of my deliveries.
The mil decided to not follow the plan and made you angry and they should have not done it
SHE WOULD BE DEAD TO ME TO! Like if the one person who helped me when I almost died wasn’t there because you told her she needed to sleep you getting drop kicked and throws out the window IDC IF IM IN ABOUT TO GO IN LATER YOU AN’T STAYING IN THAT ROOM TILL YOU CALL THAT PERSON I NEED👹
Nah F that. You had a plan and didn’t hold up her end, then she changed it at the last minute like it was no big deal. It’s not her birth and it sounds like she just wanted to be the only grandparent to baby there. I’d be resentful forever.
My question is, was the husband okay with the way his mother treated his wife?
NTA, that is disgraceful to do to someone, especially when in labor
It was a big deal! You are not the A-hole. Nobody asked her to plan for you, and she had the nerve to say, your Mom had already withness two births. She discounted your plan, and the lazy cow refused to pick everyone up when you couldn't.
my grandmother disowned my uncle for threatening being late for my brothers birth. You put up with enough to disown them.
Not over reacting!
what does ML mean?
No
What kind of person would do that!?!?!?! Ugh I'm getting angry. She should be banned from the delivery room for ever!!!
Nah she sucks, your husbands mum is the worst
Your mil is a total AH
MIL’s are always the same , mine ran away from home on the day we got married 😂 I hated her for this for months with strong dedication to never see her face again. But then she got sick and now I forgave her even tho I still don’t like her because she demands apology from me for not talking to her for months lol. Also my husband said I kinda need to accept that she would be jealous of whoever close to him.
You promise something that means a lot to the other person and change your mind the last minute? Not cool.
It wasn't a big deal it was HUGE deal NTA MIL is the biggest AH here
Your MIL is the a hole and so is your husband if he’s the one telling you that you’re overreacting
EVERYONE AGREED ON THE PLAN